To the Girl's whose shoes I've been in......
I mean this figuratively not literally.
To the girls who have never been with anyone/dated anyone/really talked to any guys and you are seventeen, eighteen, nineteen, twenty, or any age.
And you look at all those couples and are jealous of what they have.
Or wish you had someone to talk to all the time like they do.
Or wonder why you haven't had a boyfriend yet.
Or why you are so lame that guys don't talk to you.
Or wonder if you'll ever have a boyfriend.
I know those feelings and thoughts way to well. When I went into college I felt like everyone was either in a relationship or had been in one. I thought I'd never find the right one and I'd be old by the time I found the right guy. And I never took anyone seriously when they said the right guy will come at the right time and just to be patience. Be patient? I've been patient for nineteen (or however many years), isn't that long enough?
I know how you feel and how impatient you are.
I've been there and felt those feelings SO many times and got sad or mad about these things so many times.
I get you.
But when they say the right guy will come when you least expect it, it's really true. As much as you want to believe that but can't. It's really true.
I look where I am now and can't believe it sometimes. Just two years ago or even 18 months ago I would never have imagined that I would be engaged and madly in love with a guy I'll marry in one year.
Never would have believed.
I've imagined and dreamed about my future and my life so many times and hoped that I would be married in my younger twenties and have a family and live happily ever after.
And although life isn't necessarily that happy fairy tale that I always imagined or that's in movies, here I am happy and with a great guy that will be my husband in 361 days!
I really believe that you have to believe in yourself and do what makes you happy. Don't care what society thinks of you. And so when you think society thinks you are uncool that you are however old and never dated anyone, you shouldn't. I've come to the point where I've learned that you have to not care what anyone else thinks of you and do 'you'.
Society may not approve of me meeting my fiance online, facetiming and talking nonstop for 2 or 3 weeks before we met, getting engaged after being together for only 10 months and knowing of each other for just a little over that, or getting married at just 21 and 22, and whatever else.
But i'm happy with where I am in life and the guy I've got by my side and that's all that matters.
So don't feel bad if you've never been with someone before. Just enjoy life and being YOU!
Because you never know what will happen and when it'll happen. And you truly will be surprised what life brings you when you wait for something like this. And someday you'll be in my shoes thinking about how worth the wait and the guy was and how you could never have imagined where you are now.
And you will be happy and know it was all worth the wait! Even though you won't believe me or anyone else who tells you this, just know deep down that you will find the person of your dreams at the right time at the right point of life and when everything was meant to be with the person who was meant for you. Just trust me on that!
Hope this helps anyone whose shoes I've been in!